girlfiends I have had and have gone through a lot as a dominant.
When I began my journey I started off learning the role of a
submissive and as a young man enjoyed it but found the role
ultimately unsatisfying to my dominant personality type and personal
needs. So you grow, its a journey and you experiment as I am sure
everyone has in their own bedrooms. However in 2012 i find this site
IMVU. Now they have virtual sex on the client. It’s a 3d environment
and avatars always want to get their little bit of “nookie”. It’s
love and such a game, most of the avatars only players. pardon the
shakespearean pun, but people I have seen either take it really
lightly or way too seriously.
In the end I had a few different relationships on here even met some
people from online. It’s been an interesting experience Id’d say.
However ultimately roleplaying on here becomes very different.
Gorean I didnt know a lot about. I had heard of The John Norman
A planet named Gor, slave women serving mens every sexual fantasy.
Now why would they want to live this out versus BDSM?
BDSM as we all know is a lifestyle choice. People live it everyday
and it has some ground in reality. Based on the real world. Gorean
it seemed to me the more I heard to me more like a L.A.R.P. (Live
Action Role Play).
So i began an investigation
Now how does one do that? Research! Well i wasnt going to read all
these Norman Books. They were a lot to take in, so I got summaries
on each of them. Spoke to various people on IMVU. Looked up a
website offline called http://www.fetlife.com which had information on
those who professed they attempted to live it as a lifestyle. Asked
them questions. Now like I said to me I still felt and still do feel
Gorean is more of a LARP, as it follows a different kind of set of
rules. You will see more as the investigation unfolds. But I kept an
open mind as I wanted to see what people had to say. I am not one to
judge and I’m coming from the BDSM side of things. Having learned
from people in reallife and lived the lifestyle myself.
Anyways, I started off by learning common terminology. Like Greeting
such as tal. This you can learn by visiting any gorean room and
simply asking to observe. However upon visiting the room I did i was
told to come back, luckily I was given some basic information from a
kajira there. She advised me of some terminology. Such as homestone.
A homestone is the hearth or place where people reside. Now thats
what it was stated as. Is that all it means? No.
As my investigation unfolded I found out Homestones are very
significant in terms of Gor.
In the languages of GOR the word “Homestone” is of critical
understanding. Indeed, without a firm understanding of the word and
the concept, the visitor is in mortal danger.
In Gorean, the term GOR means “Homestone.” The planet itself is,
quite literally, the Homestone of its people. Further, each and
every Gorean who has not been outlawed has a “Homestone,” with
slaves taking the Homestone of their owners. If freed, slaves can
again claim the Homestone of their birth. Although it is not unknown
for a person to change Homestones, it is extremely rare. Since city
warfare is common on Gor, those that change Homestones are often
suspect and those who are newly arrived on Gor are cautioned that
declaring the wrong “Homestone” might prove as fatal as not having
one. Nevertheless, newcomers on Gor will need to find a City and
declared for it. Outlaws, those without a Homestone, are not even
welcome on Port Kar any more.
As Bluto of Treve has said “a HomeStone is the physical, spiritual,
social and emotional anchor of a Gorean. It is a the place a
FreePerson owes loyalty, fealty and honor.. for most it is the place
of their birth.. for others it is an adopted home…for a peasant it
is no more than a rock in his hut, but each defends his HomeStone
with his life.”
So you see Homestones are quite important in Terms of the roleplay.
But in real life could this be called anything else? Look at what
its talking about a planet named Gor. Slaves freed. Now defending
with your life? Once again if I defended with my life anything it
better well be really important in rl, otherwise we have legal
issues. Hence why it is defintely more of what I thought to be a
But i am digressing..
The investigation continued. I had a couple of close friends who
wanted to play the part of kajira. Gathering a large variety of
information online I conducted several R/p’s after continuing to
visit rooms and observe. I also was able to get information from a
couple of seasoned Gor roleplayers on IMVU who advised me on proper
is a great resource for any looking for information relating to
Gorean L.A.R.P. or online Roleplay
It has all kinds of information straight from the books which can be
used to enhance the experience.
Overall what I learned is the differences are vast in some ways and
incosequential in others. Both play on our inner fantasies of
contol, domination and submission. Depending on who you are you may
fit into any of these roles. In other ways its quite different as
the BDSM uses the safe words and control is worked with safe words
to establish the trust between partners. In reality a submissive
holds the true power in any dom/sub relationship as they may stop
that partnership at any time. A true sub wants to please his/her
dom. And a true dom/domme desires to control well and to make the
experience one his/her sub enjoys as well. A happy sub is a good sub. A
vast difference seen in the Gorean where they must submit to all
wishes. However even there a good master is seen to be one who
treats his/her slaves well. So in some respects the roleplay can be said
to be similiar. In the end, one however is a lifestyle.
My opinion in any case.